Self-love is a popular term today that gets tossed around in normal conversation. “You have to love yourself more.” “Why don’t you love yourself?” “You can’t love another person until you love yourself first.”
What is self-love? Is it something you can buy such a beauty makeover or a new clothes? Would a new relationship make you love yourself more? Of course not! Although they feel good and are gratifying, you can’t grow self-love through external activities because it is not simply a state of feeling good but is a state of appreciation for ourselves that stems from actions which are supportive of our physical, mental and spiritual growth. When we act in ways that expand self-esteem in us, we begin to accept our weaknesses as well as our strengths. We have less need to explain away our short-comings and have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning. We become more centred in our life purpose and values, and are better prepared for healthy relating with others, therefore attracting people and circumstances that support our wellbeing.
Self-nurturing is far more than pampering, it’s about returning home to your heart.
We cannot nurture others from a dry well. We need to take care of our own needs first, then we can give from our surplus, our abundance. When we nurture others from a place of fullness, we feel renewed instead of taken advantage of. Self-nurturing is having the courage to pay attention to your needs. Nurturing also means empowerment, the power that comes when you stretch and fulfil a goal. And finally, nurturing is celebration, taking time to applaud being alive, being you. Jennifer Louden
Are you looking after yourself enough? Make it your priority from today and see how it elevate your personal vibrations instantly. Come on, give it a go….
- Forgive yourself when you don’t do all you’d hoped
- Tell the self-critical committee in your head to sit down and shut up.
- Self-nurture even when you don’t feel you deserve it
- Fake it until you can make it. When you treat yourself like you deserve to feel good and be nurtured, slowly you’ll come to believe it.
The Woman’s Comfort Book: A Self-Nurturing Guide for Restoring Balance in Your Life by Jennifer Louden
Author: Anne Tison – Holistic Yoga Teacher
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